Grief
Coping with Loss of a Loved One or Friend from Substance Abuse
GRIEF – keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow, painful regret.
Losing a loved one or friend from the tragedy of substance abuse is beyond this dictionary definition. It is felt deep within us, ushering forth many emotions and thoughts and just taking over our existence. We have felt it and if you are new to Emerald Star Network you have also experienced something that affects every part of your being: physical, mental and spiritual. Coping as time goes on is difficult and challenging. I remind you that relief of the distressing elements of our tragedy is a journey, a path to travel. Some have found insight to the nature of grief to help you on the Emerald Star Path to Finding Solace After Tragedy from Substance Abuse. The stages of grief are well explained by the field of psychology and grief counselling.
Stages of grief:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
Some at Emerald Star Network have also found it helpful to have a knowledge of the types of grief:
Anticipatory Grief – Some at Emerald Star Network identify with “waiting for the call” where we know there is a possibility of the loss and have uneasiness every time the phone rings. This is a type of anticipatory grief.
Normal Grief – Experiencing Crying, sleep habit and appetite changes, isolation, lethargy and apathy, focusing difficulties, are common. Some at Emerald Star Network would term this as “Common Grief”. Since normal does not seem appropriate since we often feel devastating sadness.
Delayed Grief – Not dealing fully with pain and sadness or other emotions for quite a while after the loss.
Complicated / Traumatic Grief – This type of grief starts out as normal or our term common grief and does not fade over time. This type of grief can impede with daily life. Please note that we at Emerald Star Network stress the dangers and harm associated with not seeking professional help when needed.
Useful link: (Writings from grief counselors etc.)
WARNING – We at Emerald Star Network are people helping other people who have also experienced the tragedy of a fatal loss from substance abuse. We are not professional therapists, counselors, or medical professionals. If you are experiencing feelings or have actions that affect your daily life adversely, professional help is highly recommended.
If someone is showing symptoms of mental illness or actively endangering themselves or others 911 should be called for appropriate intervention.
Useful Link: (When to seek help)
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